The Day-To-Day

The street sign of our home.

We're adjusting well to (married) life!  More specifically, we're adjusting well to married life in Malaysia.  Certainly there were many adjustments we had to make during our first few weeks, but as we celebrate our  one-month anniversary (marriage and residency) we're adjusting well.  Thankfully, through technology we're able to share pieces of our life in Malaysia through Facebook and FaceTime.  However, we've gotten a lot of questions about the adjustments we've made, and what our day-to-day lives look like. So, here is an inside look at several of our day-to-day adjustments.

Water 

Routinely UV filtering water and filling our bottles.

It was recommended to us that we don't drink the tap water in Malaysia, at least not for the first few months.  So, this means we have to use an abundance of water bottles.  Please don't worry, we hate wasting plastic bottles as much as the next person, and thanks to some awesome people, we're able to refill our plastic water bottles.  Shout out to our Aunt Pam & Uncle Steve, as well as Garrison, Amy, and Emory Locke!  For our wedding, they gifted us two sweet UV filter camel back water bottles.  So, everyday we run tap water (which is double filtered from the sink) into our fancy camel back UV bottles, shake them for 60 seconds under the UV light, then refill our plastic water bottles.  Due to the heat, the haze, and our new 1/2 marathon training program, Sarah and I drink about 8-10 bottles a day each.  I'll let you do that math.  Thanks Garrison, Amy, Emory, Steve, and Pam!

Transportation
The way we commute from point A to point B was drastically different one month ago.  Although we have our international permits, we don't have the luxury of a car while we are in Malaysia.  Therefore, we have to rely on either other people fetching (British influence) us or start walking and then take the LRT (Light Rail Transit).  Walking is our new favorite hobby.  We average anywhere from 3-5 miles of walking daily.  This is on top of the 3-5 miles we run at the gym 4 times a week.



In order to journey out into the big city, we first lock up our Bungalow.  There are 4 locks between our bedroom and the street.  Next, we greet our guard-dog, Buddy.  He is ferocious, but slowly warming up to us (I think).  Some days are friendlier than others. 

Laundry

We are very fortunate to have a washing machine in our house, but what we don't have (and don't need) is a dryer.  So, when we wash our clothes we hang them out to dry.  I know this is not a revolutionary concept or huge inconvenience, but it is something new to us.







Food! And it's cheap!
Because of the exchange rate, Sarah and I are financially blessed here with regards to food.  So, we eat.  And we eat a lot.  We've gotten a lot of questions about how much things cost here, so let me give you a few examples of our favorite meals.

Roti Canai

Left: This is roti.  It is a flat fried bread similar to a crepe.  You can get roti made with bananas, egg, margarine, sugar, and a variety of other fillings.  It is served with a curry sauce for dipping.  Sarah often gets 2 plain roti and I get a roti pisang gula (roti with banana and sugar).  We also get two coffees. One plain roti = 1 ringgit.  Our total breakfast is about 8 ringgits, which is ~$2 USD.

 

Subway Meal = ~$3.00

There are a variety of traditional western restaurants such as Chili's, Texas (Church's) Chicken, Subway, KFC, Burger King, and McDonald's.  We often order Chili's for delivery as a feel good meal when we miss home, and  when we run 4 miles.  Another favorite of ours is Texas Chicken.  We're able to get a taste of home (including sweat tea) for only ~$7 USD.

Traditional dim sum

We've also been very blessed to have wonderful new friends and parishioners take us to try a variety of foods.

The culture is centered on sharing meals together.  Sarah and I have yet to meet anyone new from the church without food on the table.

We've had Cantonese food, which was a bed of rice (a theme you will see frequently) with various dishes - cabbage, bean curd, and chicken. It was all very good.

We were introduced to authentic Indian food - rice, lamb curry, roasted chicken with vegetables, and so many good Malaysian fruits.

We tried Thai food - garlic pepper chicken, pandan chicken, vegetables, and a really spicy soup (over rice).

All of these great foods not to mention a large variety of cakes, pastries, waffles, coffees, teas, and fruits.

Haze
Every year Indonesia peat bogs continue to burn.  The bogs are drained in order to make room for farming and under the right (dry) circumstances, peat will burn indefinitely. Some peat fires have been burning in Indonesia since 1997.  The problem with all the burning is that it creates a thick haze.  Some days it is worse than others and it will be around until rainy season begins in November.

You can read more about the peat fires and the settling haze on Sarah's blog: Hazed - and - Confused

Right: This is a picture of our walk to dowtown Petaling Jaya.  It was taken the first week we arrived.

Below: The same picture taken three weeks later when the hazed set it.  Visibility was under one mile.





These are just a few of the day-to-day aspects of our lives in Malaysia.  We would love to share more with you and invite you to message us with any other questions you have.  We miss you all!

Adjusting to my New Normal

I never assumed that moving half way around the world for a year would be easy.  I don't consider myself to be naive, and I knew that there would be many challenges, adjustments, frustrations, and (of course) blessings.  Things that were comfortable and second-nature in the states may no longer be as comfortable (or natural) in our home-away from home.  And in these times of cultural adjustment, when I experience something drastically different than 'what I'm used to," we I tend to over use the phrase 'I take for granted...'

"I take for granted my comfortable life at home."  

"I take for granted my friends and family."  

"I take for granted my car and my simple ability to commute from point A to point B."  

"I take for granted my shower, bed, phone, etc.."   

It seems that each time I encounter something new that challenges my comfort zone, my knee-jerk reaction is to think of its home-equivalent, miss it, and then dwell in the fact that I take it for granted.  But after two weeks of culture shock, lifestyle adjustments, and warm hospitality, I must admit that my knee-jerk reaction is wrong.  It's simply wrong.  And not to mention, it's unfair.

If my first reaction to an unfamiliar situation is to lament that I take its home-equivalent for granted, then perhaps I am holding my own norm and context in a higher regard than the one I'm experiencing.  To say I take something for granted is to say that yours isn't good enough for me.  I know it communicates a posture of superiority, which belittles the contextual norm of my new surrounding, and I hate it.  I hate that my gut says, "this isn't as good (fun, tasty, difficult, troublesome, etc.) as home," thereby dismissing this.  By an unfair comparison, and a better-than-thou complex, I communicate that my culture is somehow better than yours.  I KNOW this is unfair, and for that I am sorry.

The last two weeks have been incredible.  Let's not mistake that fact.  But that isn't to say it hasn't been without its challenges.  It hasn't been without necessary cultural adjustments.  And it certainly hasn't been without lifestyle changes.

In my first two weeks here, I've come to realize that my knee-jerk reaction, which tends to unfairly hold your norm in comparison to mine, is wrong.  I apologize for that.  This realization has taught me that while cultural comparison is appropriate within the context of discussing our differing cultures and the ways in which we are influenced by them, it is not appropriate when it belittles or dismisses the culture I am experiencing.  It is not okay to hold another's culture below you own.

I think there is a drastic difference between saying, "I miss my way of life back home," and saying, "This way of life doesn't compare well to mine."  There is a clear distinction between the two.  I've held both of these statements in my mind on multiple occasions these past two weeks, and while I don't apologize for missing (at times) my comfortable way of life, I DO apologize for the times in which I have unfairly compared my normal way of life to yours.

So, from here on I promise to be intentional about how I think, talk, interpret, feel, and describe about new challenges - new normals.  And rather than determine how a certain experience differs from my own, I promise to intentional remember that this culture (though different than my own) is in no way, shape, or form insignificant.  After all, it is my new normal.

The Petronas Twin Towers in the Kuala Lumpur City Centre.  Photo by: Sarah Locke